Support & Resources
As a Center, we recognize the need to provide resources to our community that are both inside and outside of Cornell. We have provided an array of resources, internal and external to Cornell. Please help us continue building this list as more resources become available. If you believe we should add something to our website, please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
All professional staff in the LGBT Resource Center are confidential resources. Any student regardless of sexual/romantic orientation or gender identity is welcome to meet with professional staff in our capacity as a confidential resource. For more information about confidential resources, visit the information posted on the Office of Institutional Equity & Title IX website. To make an appointment with an LGBT Resource Center staff, click on the “Meet the Team” tab to set up a meeting with either the Director or Assistant Director.
Cornell University is committed to creating a safe and respectful campus for all members of our community, including those of all gender identities. Our Trans Resources page provides general guidelines for students on specific areas of campus life related to gender identity & gender expression. Human Resources also hosts a website with Transgender Resources for faculty and staff, including a PDF guide for transitioning and gender affirmation in the workplace.
Cornell Gender Inclusive Housing Options
- Click here to visit Housing and Residential Life's page with information about gender-inclusive housing options
- Another option is living in Loving House. The Loving House aims to enhance the intellectual and cultural environment of Cornell University regarding issues pertaining to the experiences of the LGBTQ+ and allied communities. The Loving House promotes the development of critical, engaged, and responsible LGBTQIA+ scholars, activists, and community leaders at various levels of experience. In addition to creating an LGBTQ+ living space that is inclusive to all intersections of identity, the Loving House embraces honest and frank dialogues about sex, sexuality, romanticism, gender identity and expression, community development, cross-cultural understanding, and the intersections of identity.
- Let’s Talk is a drop-in consultation with a counselor, this occurs all across campus, but every Thursday afternoon, the LGBTQ+ Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) liaison hosts Let’s Talk at 626 Thurston on the first floor.
- Group Counseling is offered every semester through CAPS. There are a number of LGBTQ+ specific groups that focus on both gender and sexuality.
- All counselors in CAPS are trained to support students from diverse sexualities and genders. However, there are some therapists that provide support specifically for LGBTQ+ students, you can see staff bios here. All mental health supports can be found on the CAPS website or the Mental Health at Cornell website.
Student Support & Advocacy Services
- The Office of Student Support and Advocacy Services assists students in navigating difficult life events and crisis situations that impact their ability to be successful.
Sexual Violence Prevention and Advocacy Services
Cornell Career Services is committed to serving diverse populations, including LGBTQ+ students. The career counselors on campus are dedicated to ensuring all students’ experiences, perspectives, and backgrounds are respected and integrated into career planning and development. The CCS office has created identity and career resources on this page.
Prospective Students: Undergraduate & Graduate
What makes an LGBTQ-friendly campus? The question is a very personal one. Each undergraduate and graduate student needs to evaluate their prospective university or college with their own interests and sense of what makes LGBTQ campus life appealing. We encourage you to review our programs and other pages to gain a better sense of the Cornell University LGBTQ+ community. It may also be helpful to review opportunities for undergraduate and graduate studentson campus. There are a number of undergraduate and graduate LGBTQ+ groups on campus here to assist you in finding a home at Cornell.
If you can visit our Ithaca campus, we encourage you to stop by the LGBT Resource Center at 626 Thurston Avenue. The LGBT Resource Center is equipped to provide many different services depending on the needs of individuals.
Helpful resources when deciding what college is best for you.
- College Experience Guide for LGBTQ+ Students
- Affordable Colleges Online LGBTQ College Student Guide
- Campus Pride
- Online Colleges Guide - Choosing an LGBTQ-Friendly College
We look forward to welcoming you to our community!
Parents and Families
We want the parents and family members of our LGBTQ+ and ally community to know that the LGBT Resource Center is continually working to make Cornell a warm and welcoming place for LGBTQ+ students.
As parents, guardians, or family members of LGBTQ+ or ally students you may have questions and concerns about how your student will experience Cornell. All students are welcome to visit the LGBT Resource Center to learn more about our resource and program offerings.
You may also need support as your LGBTQ+ student goes off to college, and you are welcome to contact the LGBT Resource Center if you have specific questions. Another great resource is Parents, Family and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG). Their website has wonderful resources, and you can also locate a chapter near you. For further resources regarding issues of gender and/or sexuality.
Below are a few other resources that may be helpful as a parent, family member, and/or friend of LGBTQ+ individuals.
- HRC guide for coming out to your family and friends
- Tips for those who are friends or family members of LGBTQ people!
- HRC Coming Out as a Supporter of LGBT people
If you are a member of the LGBTQ+ community and a parent, we also want to provide you with resources as you navigate Cornell and our community. Below are some resources that you might find helpful as a LGBTQ+ parent in our community.
PFLAG (Parents, Friends, and Family of Lesbians and Gays)
COLAGE (Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere)
OurPath, formerly Straight Spouse Network (for husbands and wives of LGBT people)
Families Like Mine
Resources for Allies
- The Trevor Project
Live Chat with the Trevor Project (Fridays 4:00 pm- 5:00 pm EST)
- The Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender National Hotline
- The GLBT National Youth Talkline
(Youth serving youth through age 25)
- Crisis Text Line: 741-741
Crisis Text Line Serves anyone, in any type of crisis, providing access to free, 24/7 support and information via text. Simple text 741-741 from anywhere in the USA, anytime, about any type of crisis. A live, trained Crisis Counselor receives the text and responds quickly, helping you "move from a hot moment to a cool moment." Please note that this Crisis Text Line is not specific to LGBTQ+ people.
- The TransLifeline Transgender Crisis
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (non-Cornell)
- The National Runaway Switchboard
- LGBT Youth Line
The Lesbian Gay Bi Trans Youth Line exists to provide service for youth, by youth that affirms the experiences and aspirations of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual, transgender, 2-spirited, queer and questioning youth in Ontario. Working within an anti-oppression and anti-racist framework, we provide leadership opportunities, outreach, confidential peer support, and referrals by telephone, texting, and online.
Local & Regional Resources
- Ithaca Transgender Group
The Ithaca Transgender Group is a confidential, peer-led support group. We welcome anyone identifying somewhere under the transgender umbrella.
- The Advocacy Center
Provides supportive services to youth and adults in Tompkins County, New York, who have experienced intimate partner violence or sexual violence. Services include a 24-hour hotline, emotional support, help with police or courts, Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner Program, and an emergency shelter.
- Southern Tier AIDS Program
Services focus on the health and well-being of HIV+ persons and incorporate a harm reduction perspective and recognize that behavior change is a gradual process.
- Out for Health
Provides healthcare information, education, and outreach in an LGBT-friendly setting. Out for Health is part of Planned Parenthood of the Southern Finger Lakes - LGBT Health and Wellness Project. Provides local trans resources as well.
- Out Alliance
The Out Alliance, previously the Gay Alliance of the Genesee Valley, is a Champion for LGBTQ Life and Culture. We envision a future where all members of the greater Rochester LGBTQ communities, at all stages of their lives, are free to be fully participating citizens, celebrating their lives in which they are safe, stable, and fully respected.
- Tompkins County LGBT Youth Group
Contact Regina DeMauro at email@example.com or 607-272-4557, ext. 274.
- Parents, Family, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) Ithaca-Cortland
PFLAG promotes the health and well-being of GLBT persons, their families, and friends by providing an opportunity for dialogue about sexual orientation and gender identity. Interfaith Center on Sundays 4:00 p.m.7 Calvert Street, Cortland, NY 13045
Identity Specific Pages
Gender Identity & Expression Pages
Race & Ethnicity Focused Pages
Queer People Of Color (QPOC) Resources
African American / Black / African
Asian and Pacific Islander
Workplace and Association Pages
Sexual Violence Prevention & Advocacy
Religious & Spiritual Resources
Listed below are resources and organizations that focus on issues of religion and spirituality for the LGBTQ+ and ally communities. Please contact the LGBT Resource Center if you have suggestions for additions to this resource listing.
Other Denominational Resources
The LGBTRC also provides some educational resources via downloadable PDF on this webpage. Please feel free to download and post these infographics in your office or building to help others learn more about ways to make Cornell an even more open and affirming campus.
Common Questions on Gender Inclusive Pronoun UsageSome people don’t feel like traditional gender pronouns (she/her, he/him) fit their gender identities. Transgender, genderqueer, and other gender-nonconforming people may choose different pronouns for themselves. The following tips are a starting point for using pronouns respectfully.
How do I know which pronouns to use? If the person you’re referring to is a stranger or brief acquaintance (like a server, cashier, fellow bus patron, etc), you may not need to know. If the person is a classmate, student, or coworker, for example, it is best to ask. Try:
- “What pronouns do you use?”
- “How would you like me to refer to you?”
- “How would you like to be addressed?”
- “My name is Tou, and my pronouns are he and him. What about you?”
- “Her books are—I’m sorry, hir books are over there.”
- “I’m sorry I used the wrong pronoun earlier.
- “I’ll be more careful next time.”
- “I think Sam uses she and her pronouns. And yes, I’m going to her house later too!”
What might this look like in other languages? Check out the links below for more information regarding Gender Inclusive Pronoun usage in other languages. Nonbinary.org: Gender neutral language long and comprehensive wiki-style list of ten languages with pronoun options. Multilingual Pronouns list thirty-six languages and some pronoun options- some more detailed than others. Blog by Non-binary French people (in French, no longer updated but has an archive). Series of posts/examples of Non-binary pronouns in German (in German) Non-binary pronouns in Icelandic (in English). Non-binary Gender in Japan: link list (in English) this has terms and narratives; unclear how much about pronouns.
There are two sets of commonly used gender-neutral pronouns:sie, hir, hir, hirs, hirselfzie, zir, zir, zirs, zirself
|So instead of...||You may use...||Which is pronounced...|
|him/her||hirzir||"here"like "sir" with a "z"|
|his/hers||hirszirs||"here's"like "sirs" with a "z"|
|himself/herself||hirselfzirself||"here-self"like "sir-self" with a "z"|
Note: It is often also acceptable to use the third person plural (they, them, their, themselves) instead of the third-person singular (he/she, his/hers, him/her, himself/herself) when referring to someone who has not expressed a clear pronoun choice.