Resources for Allies
Allies are individuals who are supporters and defenders of the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender, queer, questioning, asexual, intersex+ community. Allies are a vital part of the community. If you are an ally, you are welcome to join in on any of the events and programs that we hold. Please drop by the LGBT Resource Center to see how you can get involved! There is no pressure to disclose your sexual orientation or gender identity unless you choose to do so.
Resources for Ally Education
LGBTQQIA Terminology Guide
Check out the Terminology Guide to learn more about the LGBTQQIA community.
Gender Inclusive Pronoun Guide
Common Questions on Gender Inclusive Pronoun UsageSome people don’t feel like traditional gender pronouns (she/her, he/him) fit their gender identities. Transgender, genderqueer, and other gender-nonconforming people may choose different pronouns for themselves. The following tips are a starting point for using pronouns respectfully.How do I know which pronouns to use?If the person you’re referring to is a stranger or brief acquaintance (like a server, cashier, fellow bus patron, etc), you may not need to know. If the person is a classmate, student, or coworker, for example, it is best to ask. Try:
- “What pronouns do you use?”
- “How would you like me to refer to you?”
- “How would you like to be addressed?”
- “My name is Tou and my pronouns are he and him. What about you?”
- “Her books are—I’m sorry, hir books are over there.”
- “I’m sorry I used the wrong pronoun earlier.
- I’ll be more careful next time.”
- “I think Sam uses she and her pronouns. And yes, I’m going to her house later too!”
Gender Inclusive PronounsThere are two sets of commonly used gender-neutral pronouns:sie, hir, hir, hirs, hirselfzie, zir, zir, zirs, zirself
|So instead of...||You may use...||Which is pronounced...|
|him/her||hirzir||"here"like "sir" with a "z"|
|his/hers||hirszirs||"here's"like "sirs" with a "z"|
|himself/herself||hirselfzirself||"here-self"like "sir-self" with a "z"|
Note: It is often also acceptable to use the third person plural (they, them, their, themselves) instead of the third-person singular (he/she, his/hers, him/her, himself/herself) when referring to someone who has not expressed a clear pronoun choice.